I am new to Facebook. I have managed to resist starting an account for so very, very long, because I know well my easily distracted mind, and I’ve seen too many people spend entire afternoons doing nothing.
But through a series of random events, I now have a facebook account. I enjoy going about telling people so, and seeing their shocked faces. :D I also like to think I do a fairly good job at limiting my facebook time, though there are so many other things to do on the terribly distracting Internet that it hardly matters.
I’ve noticed a curious phenomenon. Everytime I post, or consider posting, I mentally run through the list of audience, and I wonder, do I really want them to see this? For example, I come across a link to an essay on Hong Kong comics and culture. I like Hong Kong comics, even if they are traditionally frowned upon. And I know my sister likes them. And half my friends wouldn’t be able to read it anyway. But one particular highschool friend, my best friend at the time, in fact, would probably be disgusted. Not so much at the essay, but at how I have stooped to such levels. I would rather not disgust her, so I refrain from posting.
Now, it is normal for people to adjust their words and actions according to what audience they are around. But what about facebook? You have a constant plethora of audience who never go away. I suppose you could block certain users from seeing a post, but that’s awfully troublesome and I would feel dishonest doing so. Or I could refrain from posting, in which case I ask myself, am I limiting myself to pander to friends? Something in me balks at that also.
Does anyone else have this problem? Or is it just me? And if you do share my troubles, how do you deal with it?